Connect Before You Pull
Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to get your spouse to do certain things? You know the ones I’m talking about. Year after year it’s the same result, no matter what you do or say, they don’t do it, what gives?
The simple truth is, a Happily Ever After marriage is like two railroad cars. You may be thinking that’s an odd analogy but stay with me. When two railroad cars come together they “couple” or become linked. Once connected, they can handle massive amounts of weight and stress while holding firm to each other. However before they can pull each other along, they have to be connected properly.
You maybe trying to pull your spouse to greatness, but you will stay frustrated with your lack of results unless, you truly connect. You have to connect before you can pull. Even if your spouse has given you the green light to help them in a certain area, without a solid connection, the railroad car isn’t going anywhere. Or worse, you may have a weak connection that allows you to pull for a little bit, but once you start up hill and the real stress hits, you disconnect and all the momentum is lost, magnifying the hurt and frustration.
So how exactly are you suppose to connect? If your asking that question that means you didn’t do the exercise from the last newsletter or your started and then life got in the way. Go back to it, work through all the questions, one of the best questions on that list is: I feel the most loved when you … Whatever the answer is, DO IT! Consistently. That is the worlds best way to connect with your spouse.
Once connected, the pull to greatness will happen naturally as if by magic. You never have to focus on the pull, just focus on the connection. Unlike the railroad cars, the connection must be maintained DAILY! That’s right, it’s an every day love affair. Rather than bemoaning that fact, simply make it a lifestyle. It’s just like with your health, if it’s a lifestyle, you are never falling off the wagon and getting back on. The momentum works in your favor and will carry you to excellence. In fact, what would you life look like if you made excellence in your marriage a lifestyle? I personally challenge you to do this, the rewards of joy, harmony and ecstasy await you. Take Action and start now, you will be so glad you did.
I have a friend named Joshua, he was happily married with kids but unfortunately he didn’t maintain the connection with his wife and divorced eventually followed. They had joint custody and for the kids sake, they remained civil towards each other. Joshua learned from his mistakes and realized he need to grow in many areas, thus began his journey into personal growth and life change. In order for things to change, Joshua realized he had to change, in order for things to get better, he had to get better. As if by magic, once he changed, everything changed for him, his relationship with his ex-wife took on a new rich color. They soon began to “date” again, after being completely legally divorced for many years, they were recently re-married!
No matter what state your marriage is in, it’s not too late. Start working on the connection and watch what happens. My bride and I are cheering for you, YOU CAN DO IT!
